Blog Post

Unmarried but living together?

Michael Brennan • Dec 14, 2017

There's an estate plan for that.

Unmarried couples who live together are becoming the new norm. According to a recent study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, nearly three out of four women in the U.S. have lived with a partner without being married. While many of these relationships eventually transition to marriage or dissolve, for a number of couples living together, there is no objection to forgoing marriage altogether. From an estate planning perspective, that arrangement can have some important consequences which should be addressed in order to avoid problems down the line. While unmarried couples do not enjoy many of the estate planning benefits of marriage, including gifting advantages and tax breaks, they are still just as able as married couples to draft estate planning documents that will protect their interests and each other in the event something happens. So what exactly should unmarried cohabitating couples have when it comes to estate planning? Here are 10 things that should be strongly considered:

Durable power of attorney for finances. A durable power of attorney for finances is a document which grants another individual the ability to make financial decisions on your behalf. It is “durable” because that person (your agent) will be permitted to act in the event you are incapacitated. For unmarried cohabitating couples, having the ability to act on behalf of the other can be important when it comes to dealing with financial institutions or accessing money in the other’s account if, for example, rent needs to be paid.

Durable power of attorney for healthcare. A durable power of attorney for healthcare is similar to a durable power of attorney for finances, except for the obvious distinction that it specifically grants authority to your agent to make healthcare decisions on your behalf in the event you are unable to do so. Typically, medical professionals may rely on the opinion of your partner’s family instead of you when it comes to making healthcare decisions for them. Of course, this may not be what you or your partner would want if you are in a committed relationship. With a durable power of attorney for healthcare, you have the ability to instruct doctors to trust the decisions of your partner over your blood relatives when it comes to your care.

HIPAA release. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) protects confidential healthcare information from being disseminated in a number of ways. The most common scenario where the general public sees its impact is when it comes to sharing information about diagnosis, healthcare conditions, medications, test results, etc. with anyone who is not the patient. A HIPAA release is a document that can be used to give your partner the ability to receive that information as it pertains to your health. This can be beneficial in a number of common situations, for example, when test results need to be shared.

Living will. A living will is a document (sometimes incorporated into a power of attorney for healthcare) that explains your wishes in the event you were in a persistent vegetative state (i.e. an irreversible coma) or had a terminal condition. In the event that you are unable to communicate your healthcare wishes to your doctors if those situations arise, medical personnel will look to others to make the decisions on your behalf. For unmarried individuals, this usually means blood relatives. If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, but not married, it is important that your family and medical personnel are clear that your partner has authority to make those decisions on your behalf.

Will. A will is the cornerstone of any estate plan, and it’s no different for unmarried couples. A will is used to dispose of possessions, name a guardian for children and an executor, and lays out any other final wishes someone may have. An individual that dies without a will dies “intestate”. The estate of an individual that dies intestate is governed by statute and case law which has been developed essentially as a default scheme to dispose of a decedent’s assets. Typically parents, children and siblings are in line to receive the estate of an individual that dies intestate. For unmarried cohabitating couples, this means that the surviving partner may be left out. A properly drafted and executed will can leave assets to the surviving partner instead.

Instructions for final disposition. One of the most common causes of disagreement when someone dies is determining funeral arrangements. It’s not hard to imagine a situation where your parents would like certain things for you and your partner may want others. By leaving instructions detailing your preferences about burial or cremation, funeral arrangements, etc. you can add some clarity to the situation and diffuse any tensions amongst your family and partner before they arise.

Bank accounts. If you and your partner pay bills together it may be appropriate to open a joint bank account which will give you both access. Accounts can also be set up that will, in the event of either of your deaths, leave the funds to the other automatically. You may want to consider talking with your banker about options.

Appropriately titled real estate. If you and your partner purchase real estate it is important to discuss the implications with your attorney. There are ways to title the property so that it will automatically pass to the surviving partner in the event of one of your deaths. Of course, there can be negative consequences in the event of a breakup as well, so knowing your options can go a long way towards planning for future possibilities.

Proper beneficiary designations. Things like life insurance and retirement accounts are not affected by a will, but instead, they pass to the individuals named on the policies or accounts as beneficiaries. It’s important that you know who those beneficiaries are in order to avoid unwanted consequences like an ex receiving retirement funds upon your death.

Records of tangible property ownership. Couples that live together but don’t necessarily comingle their money may have a hard time determining who purchased what furniture, kitchen appliances and other tangible property in the event of a breakup or one person’s death. Keeping a list of who owns what will ensure that there are no disagreements later on.

Like any estate plan, there are many more devices which may be appropriate for your specific situation, so it’s a good idea to speak with your attorney and ensure that you have your bases covered. But, with the above ten items considered, you’ll be well on your way to making sure both you and your loved ones are taken care of in the event something happens to you.

Michael F. Brennan is an attorney at the Virtual Attorney™ a virtual law office helping clients in Illinois, Wisconsin, and Minnesota with estate planning and small business legal needs. He can be reached at michael.brennan@mfblegal.com with questions or comments, or check out his website at www.thevirtualattorney.com .

The information contained herein is intended for informational purposes only and is not legal advice, nor is it intended to create an attorney-client relationship. For specific legal advice regarding a specific legal issue please contact me or another attorney for assistance.

By Michael Brennan 21 Sep, 2022
It’s a fairly common situation to find yourself in as a small business owner—for one of a wide range of reasons you’ve decided it’s time to being a new partner into your business in some capacity.
By Michael Brennan 23 Aug, 2022
Have you thought about your beneficiaries under your estate plan? There may be more to it than meets the eye.
By Michael Brennan 02 Sep, 2021
A power of attorney for health care enables an individual to appoint a trusted agent to make medical decisions on his or her behalf if the individual is unable or unwilling to do so for themselves. For example, if a situation arises where you are in an accident and need emergency medical care, doctors will look to a trusted individual to make decisions on your behalf. Typically, this is family members, and technically, most state laws set an order of precedence on who doctors should turn to in the absence of any specific (and legally binding) instructions from the patient. However, the most ideal situation is one in which doctors rely on the instructions the patient has detailed in a valid power of attorney. Powers of attorney for health care do not have many specific requirements for validity. But, they do need to be signed by the patient and at least one witness (this varies by state). Often, someone may decide that they need a health care power of attorney in a pinch. For example, an older parent may be going in for surgery and want to cover their bases if something goes wrong. They may decide the day of the surgery that they would like to name an adult child as their health care decision-maker if something happens, so that child cannot serve as the witness. Typically, an estate planning attorney could witness the document, but that may mean scrambling at the last minute for an appointment or coordinating a meeting quickly on the way to the hospital. Not ideal. Now, however, Illinois has amended the Illinois Power of Attorney Act to permit electronic signatures. The Act states that: “The signature and execution requirements set forth in this Article are satisfied by: (i) written signatures or initials; or (ii) electronic signatures or computer-generated signature codes .” The Illinois Electronic Wills and Remote Witnesses Act permits those witnesses not only to sign electronically, but also to sign remotely. So, instead of a mad last-minute scramble to sign and witness an 11th hour power of attorney, one can be e-signed online through video conferencing with the principal and estate planning attorney quickly linking up on zoom from the comfort of their home, office, or even the hospital bed, with much more simplicity and convenience. The Power of Attorney Act was further amended to permit powers of attorney for health care to be in electronic format. So, it is no longer a requirement to dig the paper hard copy out of the basement filing cabinet and remember to bring it to the hospital. Instead, an electronic copy can simply be sent to the hospital through its patient portal, once that functionality is set up by the health care provider at least. The power of attorney can now easily form a seamless part of a health care record, neatly kept in an electronic medical file. The pandemic of 2020-2021 forced institutions to make things more efficient and reflective of the technologically-centric world we now live in. That is not more evident in many places as it is the area of law. And, few practicing attorneys would tell you that’s a bad thing.
By Michael Brennan 05 Aug, 2021
On June 26, 2021, Illinois adopted the Electronic Wills and Remote Witnesses Act. Plainly, the Act is a generational game changer for estate planning. Gone are the days of scheduling a formal office appointment with your attorney to sign estate planning documents as the law office staff witnesses and notarizes those documents on the spot.
By Michael Brennan 30 Jul, 2021
Preparing a last will and testament has always required the inclusion of original signatures of both the person making the will and witnesses. Understandably, coordinating the signing of the will could pose some administrative challenges, especially for small law firms and solo practitioners—not to mention the many people who elect to draft a will without an attorney’s help—who may not have a crowded office full of willing witnesses. Along with wills, estate plans typically include powers of attorney for finances and health care decision making as well. Those documents also require original signatures from their creators, witnesses, and notaries. Predictably, COVID-19 and the resulting government shutdowns of businesses and encouragement of social distancing and remote work complicated the task of signing and witnessing these important estate documents (Notaries are also now permitted to act remotely under a separate but related piece of legislation). Luckily, in many states, temporary orders permitted the remote execution of many documents, and a framework for conducting remote document signings began to take form. On June 26, 2021, Illinois adopted the Electronic Wills and Remote Witnesses Act. Plainly, the Act is a generational game changer for estate planning. Gone are the days of scheduling a formal office appointment with your attorney to sign estate planning documents as the law office staff witnesses and notarizes those documents on the spot. Now, under the EWRWA, the need for the conference table signing is gone. Wills, powers or attorney, and other important estate documents can be validly signed and witnessed remotely through audio-video communications. More so, “electronic wills”—those not physically printed on paper—are now an acceptable form of will in Illinois that can be probated just as paper wills have for decades. Some of the highlights of the new law are below. Electronic Copies of wills are now valid. Electronic Wills are now an option. The new law defines an electronic will as simply “a will that is created and maintained as a tamper-evident electronic record.” What is “tamper-evident” exactly? Well, the statute defines it as a “feature of an electronic record by which any change to the electronic record is displayed.” So, popular document signature software like Docusign and Hellosign would do the trick. Individuals and Witnesses can now sign on multiple signature pages with one master document being compiled later on. If a platform like Docusign is not used to create and sign an electronic will, there is now an option to use multiple signature pages for the testator and witnesses. In practice, this enables a testator to sign a will while the witnesses watch over audio-video means, like Zoom. They can then each sign the signature page sitting with them at their physical location. The testator and witnesses can then send the originals to a central location (likely the estate planning attorney) to be compiled into one master document. Previously, this was impermissible, as the document would have had to have been signed in the conscious presence of each other. The Electronic Wills and Remote Witnesses Act redefines “presence” to expressly include, “being in a different physical location from another person, but able, using audio-video communication, to know the person is signing a document in real time.” Witnesses can witness signings (and sign) remotely through video-conferencing. As mentioned, witnesses to a will previously had to be physically present with the testator. Under the new law, witnesses can now be remote. If an electronic will is prepared for signatures, the witnesses can simply sign the electronic will after watching the testator sign. If a paper copy is being used, then the witnesses can watch the testator sign his or her own paper copy, and then sign a separate signature page in their remote location. For paper copies, the witnesses and testator must physically compile all the signature pages within 10 days. The person appointed by the testator to compile all the signature pages must state that the signature pages were attached within 10 business days of signing and that the pages were attached to the testator’s complete and correct will for the will t be admitted to probate. So, best practice is to attach those statements to the will at the time of its signing or the time at which the master document is compiled. Wills can be signed electronically. Electronic signatures have previously not been permissible forms of signing a will. Now, however, the new Act changes everything. Testators and witnesses alike can not e-sign wills. To do so validly, the will must designate Illinois as the state of its execution, be signed by the testator or by some person at the testator’s direction and in their presence, and be attested to in the presence of the testator by two or more credible witnesses who are located in the United States at the time of execution. The change of the “presence” requirement is revolutionary, as “presence” now includes being in a different physical location from another person, but able to know the person is signing a document in real time using audio-video communication. Additional Documents, like Powers of Attorney can now be signed virtually Wills are not the only estate planning documents that require witness signatures. Powers of attorney and living wills are just as essential to creating a comprehensive estate plan. Illinois’ Electronic Wills and Remote Witnesses Act also authorizes the witnessing of any document other than a will using audio-video communication. The signatures of the principal and witnesses may be on the same or different pages provided the master document is compiled within 10 business days. While COVID-19 forced the legal industry to adjust, it appears that some of those adjustments were just what was needed to bring estate planning into the 21st century.
By Michael Brennan 15 Jun, 2020
The Setting Every Community Up for Retirement Enhancement Act of 2019 (the SECURE Act) took effect at the beginning of 2020 and has brought some significant changes to how retirement accounts may need to be planned for.
By Michael Brennan 01 Jun, 2020
Here are five things that business owners should be doing now to alleviate the effects of COVID-19
By Michael Brennan 23 Apr, 2020
Executing estate plan documents during the stay-at-home order can be a challenge. But there are still options to get things done now.
By Michael Brennan 16 Apr, 2020
It's something every parent thinks about--who will take care of my kids if I'm gone? It's a huge decision, but it may not be as tough a choice as you think.
More Posts
Share by: