

Unmarried couples who live together are becoming the new norm. According to a recent study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, nearly three out of four women in the U.S. have lived with a partner without being married. While many of these relationships eventually transition to marriage or dissolve, for a number of couples living together, there is no objection to forgoing marriage altogether. From an estate planning perspective, that arrangement can have some important consequences which should be addressed in order to avoid problems down the line. While unmarried couples do not enjoy many of the estate planning benefits of marriage, including gifting advantages and tax breaks, they are still just as able as married couples to draft estate planning documents that will protect their interests and each other in the event something happens. So what exactly should unmarried cohabitating couples have when it comes to estate planning? Here are 10 things that should be strongly considered:
Durable power of attorney for finances. A durable power of attorney for finances is a document which grants another individual the ability to make financial decisions on your behalf. It is “durable” because that person (your agent) will be permitted to act in the event you are incapacitated. For unmarried cohabitating couples, having the ability to act on behalf of the other can be important when it comes to dealing with financial institutions or accessing money in the other’s account if, for example, rent needs to be paid.
Durable power of attorney for healthcare. A durable power of attorney for healthcare is similar to a durable power of attorney for finances, except for the obvious distinction that it specifically grants authority to your agent to make healthcare decisions on your behalf in the event you are unable to do so. Typically, medical professionals may rely on the opinion of your partner’s family instead of you when it comes to making healthcare decisions for them. Of course, this may not be what you or your partner would want if you are in a committed relationship. With a durable power of attorney for healthcare, you have the ability to instruct doctors to trust the decisions of your partner over your blood relatives when it comes to your care.
HIPAA release. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) protects confidential healthcare information from being disseminated in a number of ways. The most common scenario where the general public sees its impact is when it comes to sharing information about diagnosis, healthcare conditions, medications, test results, etc. with anyone who is not the patient. A HIPAA release is a document that can be used to give your partner the ability to receive that information as it pertains to your health. This can be beneficial in a number of common situations, for example, when test results need to be shared.
Living will. A living will is a document (sometimes incorporated into a power of attorney for healthcare) that explains your wishes in the event you were in a persistent vegetative state (i.e. an irreversible coma) or had a terminal condition. In the event that you are unable to communicate your healthcare wishes to your doctors if those situations arise, medical personnel will look to others to make the decisions on your behalf. For unmarried individuals, this usually means blood relatives. If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, but not married, it is important that your family and medical personnel are clear that your partner has authority to make those decisions on your behalf.
Will. A will is the cornerstone of any estate plan, and it’s no different for unmarried couples. A will is used to dispose of possessions, name a guardian for children and an executor, and lays out any other final wishes someone may have. An individual that dies without a will dies “intestate”. The estate of an individual that dies intestate is governed by statute and case law which has been developed essentially as a default scheme to dispose of a decedent’s assets. Typically parents, children and siblings are in line to receive the estate of an individual that dies intestate. For unmarried cohabitating couples, this means that the surviving partner may be left out. A properly drafted and executed will can leave assets to the surviving partner instead.
Instructions for final disposition. One of the most common causes of disagreement when someone dies is determining funeral arrangements. It’s not hard to imagine a situation where your parents would like certain things for you and your partner may want others. By leaving instructions detailing your preferences about burial or cremation, funeral arrangements, etc. you can add some clarity to the situation and diffuse any tensions amongst your family and partner before they arise.
Bank accounts. If you and your partner pay bills together it may be appropriate to open a joint bank account which will give you both access. Accounts can also be set up that will, in the event of either of your deaths, leave the funds to the other automatically. You may want to consider talking with your banker about options.
Appropriately titled real estate. If you and your partner purchase real estate it is important to discuss the implications with your attorney. There are ways to title the property so that it will automatically pass to the surviving partner in the event of one of your deaths. Of course, there can be negative consequences in the event of a breakup as well, so knowing your options can go a long way towards planning for future possibilities.
Proper beneficiary designations. Things like life insurance and retirement accounts are not affected by a will, but instead, they pass to the individuals named on the policies or accounts as beneficiaries. It’s important that you know who those beneficiaries are in order to avoid unwanted consequences like an ex receiving retirement funds upon your death.
Records of tangible property ownership. Couples that live together but don’t necessarily comingle their money may have a hard time determining who purchased what furniture, kitchen appliances and other tangible property in the event of a breakup or one person’s death. Keeping a list of who owns what will ensure that there are no disagreements later on.
Like any estate plan, there are many more devices which may be appropriate for your specific situation, so it’s a good idea to speak with your attorney and ensure that you have your bases covered. But, with the above ten items considered, you’ll be well on your way to making sure both you and your loved ones are taken care of in the event something happens to you.
Michael F. Brennan is an attorney at the Virtual Attorney™ a virtual law office helping clients in Illinois, Wisconsin, and Minnesota with estate planning and small business legal needs. He can be reached at michael.brennan@mfblegal.com with questions or comments, or check out his website at www.thevirtualattorney.com .
The information contained herein is intended for informational purposes only and is not legal advice, nor is it intended to create an attorney-client relationship. For specific legal advice regarding a specific legal issue please contact me or another attorney for assistance.