

Cohabitating couples are quickly becoming more common. According to a recent government study, nearly 48% of women move in with men before getting married.
With these committed relationships, however, it’s important to remember that, while you may act like a married couple, you certainly are not viewed as one under the law. That can have some serious consequences if proper precautions are not taken, especially in the realm of estate planning. For that reason, a couple that lives together but is not legally married needs to take some time to get some simple estate planning documents in order.
These are the minimum estate planning documents that a cohabitating couple should have:
1. A Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare (including HIPAA Release)
A power of attorney is a document in which one individual (the “principal”) grants another individual (the “agent”) the authority to act on his or behalf, often according to a specific list of directions. When it comes to medical decisions, a durable power of attorney , permits the agent to make medical decisions relating to treatment on behalf of the principal and, properly drafted, it allows the agent access to the principal’s important medical records which may be necessary to consider when determining a course of treatment. Without a valid durable power of attorney for healthcare in place, medical personnel have no obligation to follow anyone’s wishes regarding treatment or consent except for the patient’s. For unmarried couples, this may mean that medical professionals will leave decisions to family members of the principal instead of the significant other. This very well may not be what the principal, nor the significant other intended.
However, by executing a valid power of attorney, a couple can appoint each other to make heath related decisions if they themselves are unable to do so. The power of attorney ensures that a boyfriend, girlfriend or fiancé will able to take any action which the principal would be permitted to take on his or her own behalf.
2. A Durable Power of Attorney for Finances and Property
With a valid durable power of attorney for finances and property an agent should be able to access the principal’s bank accounts and financial records, pay rent, utilities and credit card bills, manage investments and loans and so on. Without one, financial institutions like banks, utility providers or even landlords typically will not permit an individual that is not named on an account to access its funds or information. This means that if you are in the hospital for an extended period of time unable to act on your own behalf, the financial repercussions of failing to do things such as pay bills in a timely fashion can be long-lasting in the form of bad credit and collections. If the bank account that rent, utilities, insurance, and the like are paid out of is under your name, it is important to name your significant other as your agent under a power of attorney for finances and property to ensure that they are able to continue to access funds while you are incapacitated.
3. Will
If you want to direct where your possessions will go if you die, then it’s important to have a will. If a person dies without one, state law determines how the assets will be distributed. That will mean less money and more stress for the heirs—an unpleasant prospect for family members already dealing with the tragic death of a young person. Additionally, laws may not mirror your choices, meaning that, while you may want everything to go to a significant other or close friend, it’s not going to pan out that way without writing it out in a will. This is especially true when dealing with a couple in a committed relationship but that was not legally married. Without a will, your assets are going to go to blood relatives and NOT your significant other should something happen to you. The only way to prevent that is to have an attorney write wills for you and your significant other.
4. Living Will
A living will is a legal document used to indicate which treatments you do or do not want applied to you in the event you either suffer from a terminal illness or are in a permanent vegetative state. For example, you may indicate whether the use of feeding tubes or other life-prolonging equipment should be continued, or whether, at a certain point should be discontinued if there is no chance of recovery. A living will does not become effective unless you are incapacitated; until then you'll be able to say what treatments you do or don't want. Without a valid living will, doctors will most likely rely on the decisions of blood relatives, like parents, instead of your significant other when determining what course of treatment to pursue. If you’d rather leave that decision to your significant other, it’s important for you to have an attorney prepare a living will for you.
5. Authorization for Final Disposition
Leaving your loved ones specific instructions regarding funeral arrangements can drastically reduce the stress that they’ll obviously be facing should you pass away and spare them the difficulty of making those tough decisions at a painful time. This can be easily complicated when your family and significant other each believe that you wanted something different.
Items to consider are:
► Burial or cremation
► Contact information for a chosen funeral home, cemetery, etc.
► Details about your desired ceremony
► Details about any marker you may want
Drafting an authorization for final disposition provides details to your family and loved ones you may have never discussed with them and gives you a way to have a say in the final details of your life.
6. Appropriate beneficiary designations on retirement (and other) accounts
There are a number of things that a will won’t pass along to beneficiaries, including retirement accounts, insurance policies and other financial instruments that are governed by separate contracts between you and the provider. In order to ensure that these items go to your significant other if you die, it’s important to name him or her as the beneficiary of the policy. If changes are necessary you should make sure to file a new beneficiary designation form with the company.
7. Title to Real Estate
If you and your partner own real estate together, then you should consider your options when it comes to how title should be held. For example, by holding the real estate as joint tenants with right of survivorship you’ll be able to ensure that, should something happen to one of you, the entire interest in the home will pass to the surviving partner.
Estate Planning Checklist for Cohabitating Couples
► Durable power of attorney for healthcare (with HIPAA release)
► Durable power of attorney for finances and property
► Last will and testament
► Living will
► Authorization for final disposition
► Appropriate beneficiary designations
► Check title to Real Estate
Red Flags and Words of Caution
► State law governs powers of attorney, wills and their requirements for execution. So it’s important to familiarize yourself with these requirements BEFORE attempting to draft any of these documents on your own. Better yet, find an estate planning attorney that can do it for you.
► Many states, like Illinois and Wisconsin , have statutory forms that can be used to create a power of attorney. If you use them, be sure to follow the instructions very closely. Otherwise, you run the risk of the document being invalid.
► While the statutory form may accomplish much of what you need it does not contain some powers such as the power to make gifts or change beneficiary designations on a trust, so depending on the individual the extent of his assets, the statutory form may tie an agents hands in some ways.
► The requirements for making a valid will vary by state and are VERY SPECIFIC. One mistake in the drafting or execution of the document could invalidate it meaning that your wishes won’t be followed. This is not an area to mess around with DIY options. Hire an estate planning attorney to guarantee that there are no issues down the road.
► Beneficiary designation forms are usually pretty easy to fill out and are typically made readily available by insurance companies and financial institutions. If you’re unsure of the current beneficiary designations on your accounts, contact the institution or fill out a new form just to be safe.
► DO NOT try to modify a real estate deed without consulting an experienced attorney. You run the risk of triggering some unwanted taxes and other negative consequences.
Michael F. Brennan runs a virtual law office helping clients in Illinois, Wisconsin, and Minnesota with estate planning. He can be reached at michael.brennan@mfblegal.com with questions or comments, or check out his website at www.thevirtualattorney.com.
The information contained herein is intended for informational purposes only and is not legal advice, nor is it intended to create an attorney-client relationship. For specific legal advice regarding a specific legal issue please contact me or another attorney for assistance.